So today I decided to tackle some of the common love problems my Virgo friends always complain about. You know, the overthinking, the need for control, the little criticisms that drive partners crazy. I figured I’d try out some simple fixes myself and see what actually works.
Starting with the Morning Overthinking
First thing when I woke up, my brain was already racing. I was worrying about a text I sent last night. Did I sound too needy? Was the grammar wrong? Classic Virgo stuff. So instead of lying there and spiraling, I made myself get up and write it all down in a notebook. I just dumped every single worried thought onto the page. It looked a mess, but getting it out of my head immediately helped. It stopped the loop.
Dealing with the Need for Control
Later, my partner was loading the dishwasher. And of course, my first instinct was to step in and rearrange everything because it wasn’t “right.” But I remembered my practice for today. I literally walked away. I went into another room and focused on making coffee instead. I had to actively tell myself, “It’s fine. The dishes will get clean. Let it go.” It was surprisingly hard, but it worked. I avoided a totally unnecessary argument.
The Criticism Habit
This one is tough. We Virgos notice every tiny detail, and we think we’re “helping” by pointing them out. So when my partner was telling me about their day, I noticed they got a small fact wrong in the story. My mouth opened to correct them, but I stopped. I paused for three seconds and asked myself if it really mattered. It didn’t. So I just nodded and listened. The conversation flowed so much better because I wasn’t nitpicking.
Wrapping Up the Day
Before bed, I thought about what I tried. It wasn’t anything huge or complicated.
- Writing down the overthinking to clear my head.
- Walking away from the need to control small things.
- Pausing before criticizing to see if it’s even important.
These little actions made a real difference. The day felt lighter. My partner seemed more relaxed around me. I guess the solution isn’t to stop being a Virgo, but to manage the habits that cause the most trouble. Simple, but it works.
