Alright so I finally sat down and tried out some of that Virgo love advice for March. Honestly my dating life has been kinda blah lately just going through the motions you know
Starting Point: Admitting It Was Stale
First thing I did was just look at my last few dates. I realized I was basically having the same conversations over and over. “What do you do” “Where are you from” blah blah. It was boring for me and probably boring for them. So I decided to change it up.
The First Change: Asking Weirder Questions
Instead of the usual stuff I started asking different questions. Not like job interview questions but fun ones. I asked one person “If you could have any superpower just for a day what would you pick and why” It sounds silly but it totally changed the vibe. We ended up talking for like an hour just about stupid superpowers and it was actually fun.
Another Thing: Actually Listening
This one is simple but hard. I made a real effort to not just wait for my turn to talk. When someone told me a story I tried to remember details. Then later I’d bring it up like “Hey how did that thing with your sister turn out” People really notice when you actually listen to them. It makes them feel important.
The Big One: Planning Active Dates
I got tired of just getting coffee or drinks. So I started suggesting different things. I went for a walk in the park with one person. Another time we just went to a bookstore and wandered around. It’s less pressure than sitting across a table staring at each other. You’re just doing something together and talking naturally.
Putting It All Together
So after a few weeks of trying this stuff it’s honestly better. Not every date leads to a second one but that’s fine. The conversations are more interesting and I feel less drained afterwards. It’s not magic but it’s a simple way to make dating feel less like a chore and more like… well fun.
That’s pretty much it. Just small changes but they add up.
