Okay so this whole “Virgo Love November” thing started because honestly? I was bored stiff last Tuesday afternoon. Scrolling through nonsense online again, saw some astrology junk about Virgos needing more romance in November. God knows why, something about planetary movements. Normally I’d roll my eyes and keep scrolling, but hey – I figured, why not try it myself? Could be funny. Worst case, nothing happens.
Digging Around First
First, I grabbed my phone like anyone would. Didn’t wanna dive in blind. Typed “simple Virgo love stuff November” – nothing useful popped up, just generic “show appreciation” fluff. Annoying. Then I remembered my dusty notebook stash in the closet. Found this old leather one smelling faintly of cedar – felt right. Grabbed a decent pen too, nothing fancy. Needed something to actually do, not just read. Decided to list out what I actually like first.
Took me ages staring at the blank page. Seriously. What do I actually appreciate? Started writing slow:
- Getting coffee made for me without asking (rare)
- Quiet evenings without the TV blaring
- When someone actually puts the dishes away properly
- A hug that lasts longer than two seconds
The Actual Doing Part
Alright, time to act. My partner? Total opposite of me. Scatterbrained, loud music always on. My target: drop hints subtly. Morning one: instead of sighing over the messy counter (again), I wiped it down myself without a word. Partner looked surprised. Made them a coffee just how they like it – way too sweet, four sugars. Handed it over with “Here.” Not exactly poetic. They stared like I grew another head.
Wednesday? Left the notebook open on that appreciation list… right on the kitchen table. Partner saw it while eating cereal. Looked at it, then at me, then back. Asked, “Is this… for real?” I just shrugged. “Yeah. Supposed to do Virgo stuff this month.” They snorted. But later? Put their dirty plate straight in the dishwasher. Small win.
Thursday evening was the push. Usually, partner cranks music up after dinner. This time, I just pointed at the couch. “Ten minutes. No noise. Just… sit.” They grumbled but did it. Sat stiff as a board first minute. Then slowly leaned against me. We stayed there way past ten minutes. Didn’t say anything. Just the radiator clicking and breathing.
What Actually Happened?
Did it fix everything? Hell no. Still piles of laundry everywhere. But something shifted? Little things started showing up:
- Found my charging cable neatly coiled one morning (usually lost)
- Partner remembered my favorite takeout order without asking once
- Got an actual, genuine “Hey, thanks for…” yesterday for clearing the mail pile
Was it the “Virgo love magic”? Doubtful. Probably just both of us noticing small stuff again. The notebook helped me see what I wanted. Showing some effort, even clumsily, made the other person look up. Funny how making the list – admitting what I quietly wanted – was harder than doing anything. Anyway. Experiment’s done. Didn’t cost a penny. Might just leave that notebook lying around more often now.
