Okay, so this whole thing with the Virgo guy… let me tell you, it was driving me kinda crazy. Really cute, super smart, but man, when it came to anything feeling remotely like feelings? Total brick wall. Like, instant shutdown mode. Super frustrating, you know?
I remembered reading something vague about Virgo men being commitment-phobic or just super cautious. Honestly, I wasn’t sure if it was horoscope fluff or real. But hey, I was desperate enough to try anything practical. So, I dug around and these “3 simple tips” caught my eye. Figured, why not give it a shot? Worst case, nothing changes.
Tip 1: Give Him Actual Space (Like, Real Space)
Sounds obvious, right? Wrong. My instinct was always to text him back immediately, ask how his day was, share funny memes. Basically, be kinda present and eager. Big mistake. The article insisted they need breathing room, real physical and mental space to process stuff without feeling crowded.
So, I started hard-core. I didn’t text first for a whole three days. When he texted me, I waited at least an hour (sometimes way longer) before replying, and kept my messages short and light. No double-texting, no “you okay?” if he seemed quiet. Just… backed way off.
The result? Actually kinda weird. At first, radio silence. Then, he started initiating texts more. Nothing deep, just random stuff about his coffee or a show. Then, he actually asked to hang out first that weekend. That hadn’t happened in weeks! Just chilling, but he made the plan.
Tip 2: Focus on Actions, Not Big Talk
This one was tough for me. I like talking about feelings! But the article hammered that words overwhelm them, especially early on. They trust actions, consistency, reliability.
I stopped trying to have “the talk” or ask where this was going. Instead, I just focused on being chill when we were together. If he talked about work stress, I didn’t psychoanalyze, just listened. If I said I’d do something (like bring him that book he mentioned, or be on time), I made sure I did it. No grand declarations of affection, just steady, reliable presence without pressure.
One time, he mentioned his car needed an oil change but he was swamped. Didn’t make a fuss, just replied later saying “Saw Jiffy Lube had a special this week if you’re still looking.” No pushing for thanks, just the info. He looked genuinely surprised and relieved next time I saw him.
The cool part? He started mirroring it. He’d show up exactly on time. He followed through on little things he mentioned. Felt way more solid than any “I like you” could right now.
Tip 3: Keep it Grounded & Uncomplicated (No Drama!)
Virgos hate emotional chaos or feeling like things are out of control, apparently. My version of “fun” sometimes involves spontaneous, maybe slightly messy adventures. Learned to tone that way down initially.
Planned low-key stuff: grabbing specific food truck tacos (he loves them), watching a documentary series episode by episode together, walks in the park where we could just talk casually. Kept the mood easy and positive. If something potentially dramatic happened in my life, I kept the venting minimal when we were together.
The shift was noticeable. He relaxed so much. Way more smiling, less fidgeting. He started actually opening up about smaller anxieties or opinions on things without me prompting, knowing I wouldn’t make it a huge emotional deal. Just listened and responded calmly.
So, did it work? Honestly? Yeah, way better than expected. It’s not like we’re suddenly writing love poems. BUT, the constant push-pull tension vanished. He feels much more present, reliable, and comfortable initiating stuff. He seems genuinely happy when we hang out now, not looking for an escape hatch. The weird emotional avoidance thing significantly faded. He even held my hand first the other night, totally unprompted!
Were the tips magic? Nah. But they were simple tweaks that took the pressure off him, letting him process at his own Virgo pace. Less chasing, more allowing, and focusing on being a stable, non-dramatic presence. It required me swallowing my “need to talk” instincts, but damn, seeing him actually relax into things made it totally worth it. Maybe try easing off a bit?
