Last week I stumbled upon an astrology meme about Virgo Ascendants while scrolling Instagram. It nailed my perfectionist tendencies so hard that I decided to dig into how it actually impacts daily stuff like dating and work. Let me walk you through what I did.
The Birth Chart Rabbit Hole
First thing Monday morning, I downloaded three different astrology apps. Spent hours punching in my birth details – 5:17 AM in Brooklyn, August 15, 1991. Turns out my moon’s in Capricorn too, which explains why I’m basically a walking to-do list.
Observing My Own Patterns
For the next five days, I carried a notebook everywhere. Relationship stuff I noticed:
- Tried online dating but kept swiping left for typos in bios
- Analyzed first dates like job interviews – took notes after!
- Realized I criticize partners for “messy habits” like leaving dishes overnight
Work behaviors stood out too:
- Caught myself rewriting emails four times before sending
- Missed deadlines because I kept tweaking presentations
- Got annoyed when colleagues skipped details in reports
The Experiment Phase
On Thursday I tried fighting my Virgo Ascendant nature deliberately:
- Sent work emails with typos on purpose (killed me)
- Went on a date without planning conversation topics
- Left my desk messy for a whole workday
Felt physically uncomfortable but noticed people responded better – especially that barista who laughed when I didn’t reorganize the sugar packets.
What Actually Helped
Found better fixes than fighting myself:
- Started telling dates upfront: “Just warning you – I alphabetize spices”
- Designated “perfection time” at work (10-11AM only)
- Bought blue sticky notes for rants instead of correcting people
Weirdly, embracing the Virgo thing made it less controlling. Still hate dirty sinks though. Always will.
