My Actual Process This Week
Okay, so Tuesday afternoon, I’m scrolling through emails like always, feeling kinda meh about romance stuff. Saw this horoscope title pop up – Weekly Virgo Love Horoscope: Get Top 3 Tips for Romance This Week. Figured, “Why not? Might be silly, but what’s the harm?” I clicked it open expecting the usual vague fluff.
First tip was something like: Initiate Open-Ended Plans. Basically, don’t just ask “Wanna hang?”, say stuff like “Hey, I heard about that new spot downtown, maybe check it out Friday?” I actually laughed. Feels kinda forced, right? But Wednesday morning, texting this person I’ve been seeing casually, I stopped myself from typing “Dinner?” Deleted it. Took a deep breath and typed: “There’s that food truck festival in the park tomorrow evening? Could be cool to wander around and see what catches our eye, if you’re free?” Hit send quick before I could overthink it. Honestly? Felt super awkward putting it that way. Like, way too wordy.
Tip number two hit me harder: Pay Attention to What’s Unscheduled. The horoscope said Virgos (me!) get too caught up in routines and might miss spontaneous moments. Ouch, accurate. Thursday, I finished work early. Normally, I’d just default to the gym schedule. This time? I looked out the window. Nice day. Remembered the tip. Called the same person: “Finished early. Sun’s out. Fancy an impromptu coffee or walk in that little market street now?” Total spur-of-the-moment thing for me. Almost felt irresponsible skipping gym! We met up. The unplanned part actually felt light and fun. We ended up just chatting on a bench way longer than planned. Didn’t feel like an item on a checklist.
Last tip was tricky: Express Appreciation Verbally. Yeah, compliments. Giving them feels weird. I’m better at doing things. Friday evening, hanging out after the impromptu coffee walk became a thing. The horoscope’s voice was nagging in my head. We were just cooking together, nothing special. Saw them focused, chopping veggies perfectly. Instead of just thinking “Nice job,” I forced out: “You know, you’re seriously efficient with that knife. Kinda impressive.” Cringe! But… they grinned. A real, surprised grin. “Thanks! Nobody’s ever complimented my chopping skills before.” We laughed. It was small, but it landed. Weirdly easy after that initial hurdle.
So yeah, ran this little experiment all week. Key things I noticed:
- Open-ended invites: Awkward to phrase but led to a more relaxed, exploratory vibe instead of transactional dates.
- Unscheduled time: Felt unnatural skipping routines but created space for genuine connection without pressure.
- Verbal appreciation: Even dumb little compliments (“nice chopping skills”) matter more than I thought.
Was it magic? Nah. Was it useful? Surprisingly, yes. Broke me out of very Virgo-like autopilot in dating. Probably won’t follow horoscopes religiously, but this week? Okay, they got me this time. Maybe there’s a small point in trying stuff that feels unnatural, just to shake things up.
