Well, I’ve been hanging out with a Virgo friend for quite a while, and I’ve really noticed these 10 bad traits they often have. Let me tell you how I dealt with them.
1. Perfectionism
My Virgo friend was a total perfectionist. Everything had to be just right. When we were planning a party, they’d go crazy over the tiniest details. Like, the balloons had to be tied in a certain way. I started by just listening to their rants about how things weren’t perfect. Then I’d gently suggest that “good enough” could also be great. For example, I’d say, “Hey, these balloons look awesome already, and people are gonna have a blast anyway.” And slowly, they started to relax a bit.
2. Over – analyzing
They’d over – analyze every little thing. One time, we met someone new, and they spent hours talking about what that person’s every gesture and word meant. I decided to distract them. I’d say, “Come on, let’s just enjoy the moment and not worry so much about what it all means.” Sometimes, I’d even crack a joke to lighten the mood and break their over – analyzing train of thought.
3. Criticism
My Virgo friend was super critical. They’d point out the flaws in my clothes, my ideas, everything. Instead of getting defensive, I’d ask them for solutions. Like if they said my outfit was bad, I’d say, “Okay, then what do you think I should wear?” This made them focus on being helpful rather than just being critical.
4. Pessimism
They were often pessimistic. When we were thinking about starting a new project, they’d list all the things that could go wrong. I’d counter their pessimism with positive possibilities. I’d say, “Sure, those things might happen, but think about all the great things that could happen too!” And I’d give examples of successful projects similar to ours.
5. Nervousness
They got nervous easily. Before a big presentation, they’d be a wreck. I’d encourage them to do some relaxation exercises, like deep breathing. I’d do it with them, and say, “Let’s just calm down and trust that we’ve prepared well.”
6. Stubbornness
Once they had an idea in their head, it was hard to change it. When we were deciding on a place to eat, and they wanted Italian food but I wanted Chinese, I didn’t try to force my choice. Instead, I’d talk about the benefits of both. I’d say, “Italian food has great pasta, but Chinese food has so many delicious dumplings. How about we try something new this time?”
7. Secretiveness
They were quite secretive. Sometimes I felt like I didn’t really know what was going on in their life. I started by sharing more of my own stories and feelings. I hoped that by being open, they’d feel more comfortable opening up too. And slowly, they started to tell me more about their problems and joys.
8. Reservedness
They were really reserved in social situations. At a party, they’d just stand in a corner. I’d go over and drag them into conversations. I’d introduce them to new people and say, “Hey, this guy is really cool, you should talk to him.” And by getting them involved, they started to be more social.
9. Hypersensitivity
They were hypersensitive. A little joke from someone could really hurt their feelings. I’d explain to them that sometimes people are just joking around. I’d say, “Don’t take it to heart, they’re just having a bit of fun.” And I’d also make sure to be extra careful with my own words around them.
10. Workaholism
My Virgo friend was a workaholic. They’d stay up late working every night. I’d force them to take breaks. I’d say, “Come on, you need to rest. Let’s go for a walk or watch a movie.” And I’d make sure they knew that taking time off was important for their health and productivity.
So, that’s how I dealt with these 10 bad traits of my Virgo friend. It wasn’t always easy, but by being patient and using these methods, our relationship got a lot better.
