I remember when I first started poking around with tarot cards. It wasn’t for love, not really. It was more out of curiosity, a bit of boredom, and maybe a tiny spark of wanting to figure out something about my life that felt stuck. I’d seen those fancy decks online, all vibrant colors and mysterious symbols, and thought, “Why not?”
But when it came to love, man, that was a whole different beast. I was totally clueless. My love life? Let’s just say it was more like a comedy of errors. I’d go from one disaster to another, wondering what the heck I was doing wrong. And then it hit me: maybe those cards could actually help me get some insight, not just about general life stuff, but specifically about finding someone who actually fit, you know? A perfect match, as I hoped.
My First Forays and Fails
I started with a classic, the Rider-Waite-Smith deck. Everyone said it was the best for beginners. I bought a cheap one, nothing fancy, just to get a feel for it. I remember laying out those cards, trying to make sense of the Chariot standing upside down in a “What does he think of me?” spread. Absolute nonsense, I tell ya. I’d pull cards for “Will I ever find love?” and just get confused. The Tower kept showing up. I thought, “Great, my love life is doomed to crumble.” Pretty dramatic, right?
I read books, watched endless videos, trying to figure out what each card meant in a relationship context. It felt like I was learning a new language. And not a fun one. I’d pull the Two of Cups and think, “Oh, soulmate!” Then the Three of Swords would pop up the next day, and I’d be convinced it was over before it even started with whoever I was talking to. It was exhausting.
Finding My Groove: Different Decks, Different Vibes
After a while, I realized the Rider-Waite, while classic, just wasn’t speaking my language for love. It felt too traditional, too… heavy. That’s when I started exploring other decks. And this is where things really started to change for me.
- The Wild Unknown Tarot: This one was a game-changer. The art is so raw, so intuitive. When I first held it, it just felt right. It’s got animals and nature motifs, and for me, it just connected on a deeper, more emotional level. When I’d pull the Lovers card from this deck, it wasn’t just two people on a hill; it was two birds facing each other, and it felt like a mirror to my own desire for connection. I used this one a lot for understanding my own feelings about love and what I actually wanted from a partner.
- Everyday Witch Tarot: Don’t laugh, but this deck is just so charming and practical. The images are lighthearted, yet they still hold the traditional meanings. When I was feeling overwhelmed by complex emotional readings, this deck helped me simplify things. It was great for daily check-ins on how I was approaching dating, or what kind of energy I was putting out. It made me realize that sometimes, getting too serious about love can actually scare it away.
- Romantic Tarot: This one is pretty on-the-nose, I know. But sometimes you need that! It’s got a very specific focus on relationships and love scenarios. I pulled this one out when I really wanted to understand dynamics with specific people. It helped me see potential pitfalls or areas where I needed to communicate better. I remember pulling the Ten of Cups from this deck once, and it just made me feel so hopeful about finding that lasting happiness. It wasn’t about when or who, but about the feeling itself.
I wasn’t just pulling cards for “will he call?” anymore. I started asking better questions. Questions like, “What do I need to learn about myself to attract a healthy relationship?” or “What kind of love am I truly seeking?” These were the questions that actually got me somewhere.
The Real Deal: Not About Predicting, But Understanding
What I learned through all this card-pulling, through all the confusing interpretations and moments of clarity, was that tarot isn’t really about predicting your “perfect match” like some crystal ball. It’s about understanding yourself better. It’s about peeling back the layers of what you bring to the table, what you need, and what kind of love you are ready for.
I stopped looking for a magic answer to “who is my soulmate?” and started looking for ways to become a better, more self-aware partner. I used the cards to reflect on my own behaviors, my fears, my hopes. And funny enough, once I shifted that perspective, once I stopped chasing and started understanding, things just started falling into place. It wasn’t a sudden, dramatic “aha!” moment. It was a gradual unfolding, like watching a flower finally bloom.
Did I find my “perfect match”? Well, what is perfect, really? I found a wonderful partner, someone who complements me in ways I never expected. And I truly believe that the journey with those tarot cards, imperfect and sometimes frustrating as it was, played a huge role in me being ready for that kind of connection. It wasn’t the cards telling me who he was; it was the cards helping me see myself, and in doing so, preparing me to recognize and welcome genuine love when it arrived.
