So honestly, I wasn’t really buying into this whole astrology stuff at first. But me and Sarah – she’s the Virgo – kept hitting these weird bumps, especially in the bedroom. Felt like we were speaking different languages sometimes. She’d get quiet, I’d get frustrated, total disconnect. Figured, what the heck, maybe looking at Libra guy and Virgo girl things could shed some light.
First thing I did? Stopped assuming it was all about spontaneity. My Libra brain loves excitement, grand gestures, jumping into stuff. Bad move. I just kinda… launched things sometimes. Like, tried to sweep her off her feet mid-dinner cleanup. Yeah, awkward. Not her vibe at all. She’d freeze up. So, I started paying way more attention to the little signs. Instead of just grabbing her hand, I’d notice when she lingered washing dishes, looking a bit tired, and ask softly if she wanted a neck rub first. Small shift, huge difference. She’d actually relax instead of tensing.
Getting Over the Initial Friction
The real stumbling block? Talking about it. Seriously, why is this so hard? I’d get all airy-fairy Libra, skirting around the issue, being vague. She’d internalize everything, go silent, probably overthinking every detail. Classic Virgo analysis paralysis. My practice became brutal honesty… gently.
- Instead of hinting: Fumbled with stuff like “You seem distant?” which just confused her.
- Started being direct, but calm: “Hey, when I did X earlier, I felt Y. Did it feel off for you? What would’ve worked better?” No accusations, just curiosity. Took practice not to get defensive!
- Made space for her Virgo nitpicking: She’d point out stuff like the lighting was harsh or the sheets weren’t smooth – things my Libra self shrugged off. Instead of dismissing it, I learned to see it as her needing comfort and order to relax. Fluffing the pillows, dimming the lights first became part of the process for her.
Paying attention to the emotional prep was non-negotiable. My big mistake early on? Thinking a nice dinner was enough “romance.” Nope. Virgos need to feel mentally secure and appreciated, not just wooed physically. I started weaving genuine praise into normal days – thanking her for handling that bill, mentioning how sharp her mind is, genuinely listening (not just waiting to talk) when she was stressed about work. This emotional groundwork made her way more receptive later.
The “Secret Sauce” Was Actually Just Patience
The biggest “expert secret” I discovered? It’s embarrassingly simple: Slow. The Hell. Down. My Libra energy wanted to fly; her Virgo energy needed to build methodically.
- Embraced the foreplay… way beyond physical: For her, deep conversation, feeling truly connected intellectually and emotionally was foreplay. Spending real time just talking, cuddling without expectations, letting things build naturally became key.
- Listened to her quiet signals: Virgos often express desire subtly. A lingering touch when passing, leaning into me while reading. I practiced noticing these instead of waiting for grand gestures.
- Made her feel safe to voice insecurities: She’d sometimes whisper a worry, a doubt about her body. My Libra instinct was to gloss over it with “You’re beautiful!” which felt insincere. Switched to validating her feeling first: “It makes sense you feel that way, I get it. But know that I love touching/sensing you exactly like this.” Genuine reassurance worked wonders.
And feedback! Asked specifically the next day. Not “Was it good?” (Useless question). More like, “What felt especially nice yesterday? Anything you might wanna try differently?” Kept it low-pressure, showed I cared about her experience.
Here’s the raw truth: It was WORK. Unlearning my Libra “go with the flow, avoid heavy stuff” thing took conscious effort. Learning to appreciate her Virgo need for order and deep connection wasn’t always easy. But honestly? Slowing down, paying attention to the details of her, communicating directly but gently… it didn’t just help the bedroom stuff. It smoothed out everything. We feel way more in sync. Who knew the “secrets” were mostly about shutting up, listening, and cleaning the dang room beforehand?
