Alright, look, I gotta tell you about this Virgo relationship thing I tried this month. Russel Grant’s guide popped up, right? Sounded useful. Figured, why not? My sister and I keep clashing lately, always over stupid stuff. Needed a change.
My Step-by-Step Mess
So yesterday morning, I grabbed my coffee and pulled the guide up on my tablet. Sun just comin’ up, quiet house. Scrolled straight to the relationships section. Russel basically said: Virgos, stop overthinking every damn text message. Chill. He had this bit about ‘mirroring feelings’ or whatever. Look, I don’t know all the fancy words. It just meant: listen first, fix later. Made sense.
Tried it ON my sister THAT afternoon. She texts me about Mom stressing her out, starts complaining like always. My instant Virgo reaction? Wanna solve it. “Tell Mom this, do that…” NOPE. Remembered Russel.
Instead, I typed back: “Damn, that sucks. Sounds really annoying.” Just… agreed with her feeling. Didn’t jump in with fixes. Didn’t tell her she was being dramatic (she kinda was, tho). Felt weirdly fake? But I hit send.
Her response? Fucking shocked me.
- She said “THANKS” (all caps!) right away.
- Actually told me MORE about why Mom was getting on her nerves.
- Didn’t argue back ONCE.
Usually, it’d be a back-and-forth fight about who’s right by dinnertime. This time? Silence. Good silence. Felt like I dodged a bullet.
What Actually Happened (And What Didn’t)
Russel was kinda right about holding back the ‘fix it’ impulse. Didn’t magically fix my sister’s drama with Mom. Or make her any less stubborn. But stopped ME from making it worse. Maybe that’s all? Less yelling counts.
Problem is, this ain’t a magic switch. Later that night, when she brought up politics? Total disaster. Russel’s ‘chill’ method went out the window in 5 seconds flat. Felt petty AF.
Still… noticing my OWN habit of jumping in ready to solve/argue? That part clicked. I need more practice shutting my trap. Even if it feels like play-acting sometimes.
Gonna keep trying it this month. Specifically with my sister when she vents. Rest of Russel’s advice? Eh, not holding my breath. Tomorrow’s full moon thing sounds complicated… maybe next week.
