Alright, let’s talk about how I finally figured out my own weirdness in talking to people – this whole Virgo Mercury thing.
The Moment It Hit Me
So picture this: I was stuck editing a simple “Thank You” email for literally the fifth time. Checking every comma, changing ‘great’ to ‘excellent’, then back to ‘great’, and just driving myself nuts. My coffee went cold. That’s when I remembered seeing something about Virgo Mercury folks being super picky with words. Ding ding ding! Maybe this wasn’t just me being annoying? Maybe Mercury was poking at my brain? Had to dig deeper.
Diving Headfirst Into the Mess
First thing I did? Started keeping a stupid little notebook. Every conversation, every text, every email – I scribbled notes afterward like some detective. Nothing fancy, just stuff like:
- Talking to Sarah about weekend plans: Kept interrupting her to clarify exact times. She sounded frustrated.
- Texting Alex: Rewrote “Sure, sounds good!” three times. Why? Who cares!
- Team meeting: Got totally hung up on one tiny detail Dave mentioned, missed the main point.
After a few days, the pattern slapped me in the face. I was constantly:
- Over-explaining even the smallest things.
- Triple-checking facts before saying anything.
- Getting stuck on tiny errors in what others said (or how they said it).
Felt less like communication and more like editing life. Exhausting.
Throwing Stuff at the Wall
Okay, awareness is step one. Step two? Try not to be annoying. Easier said than done. I tried a few things cold turkey:
- The “First Draft Only” Rule: For texts and quick emails? Type it once. Read it once. Hit send. No edits. My fingers physically itched ignoring typos. But you know what? Nobody died. Alex replied “K, cool!” like normal.
- Shutting Up in Meetings: Forced myself to listen for the BIG picture before jumping on the small stuff. Bit my tongue. Literally. Made a note instead of interrupting Dave. Felt like holding my breath underwater.
- Practicing “Good Enough”: Someone asks, “Want lunch around noon?” Instead of “Approximately 12:00 to 12:15 works, depending on if the cafe line is…” I just said, “Yep, noon works.” Revolutionary, right?
None of this felt natural. At all. It felt messy and reckless, like leaving the house without checking the stove ten times. My Virgo Mercury brain screamed that sloppy communication equals disrespect. It wasn’t true, but man, the feeling was strong.
The Real Deal I Learned
This wasn’t about changing my nature overnight. That ain’t happening. It was about finding some freaking balance. Here’s what stuck:
- Pick Your Precision Battles: Work report? Legal doc? Edit it six times, fine. Casual chat? “Good enough” is actually great.
- Fact-Check Internally First: Before correcting someone’s minor point (“Actually, that was Tuesday, not Wednesday…”), ask myself: “Does this really matter right now?” 90% of the time: Nope.
- Accept the Chatter: My brain won’t shut up about words and details. That’s fine! Just don’t let it run the show constantly. Let it chatter in the background sometimes.
Turns out, people didn’t think I was suddenly dumb or sloppy. They actually seemed… more relaxed talking to me. Wild. Less friction, less confusion (because no one got lost in my paragraphs of precision). Who knew?
The point? Understanding this Virgo Mercury thing wasn’t an excuse. It was a map to my own communication jungle. Still get lost sometimes – old habits die hard. But knowing why I wander off the path? Makes it way easier to find my way back.
