The whole thing started because I was going crazy, plain and simple. I wasn’t trying to become some astrology guru, I was trying to figure out why one human being could be so damn hot and cold at the same time. You read these guides, right? They all tell you Virgos are neat freaks, super committed, and maybe a little shy in the sack. Total BS, most of it. So I set out to prove it one way or another.
THE YOUTUBE DEEP DIVE: WHERE I STARTED TO LOSE IT
I dove headfirst into the YouTube rabbit hole. My initial practice was brutal: I literally started at the top search result for “Do Virgos love?” and worked my way down. I didn’t filter anything. I just watched it all. I must have consumed maybe 40 videos in two days. It was like I was training for a marathon of bad relationship advice.
Here’s the breakdown of what I tried to document from the guides:
- PHASE 1: THE LOVE TRAITS. I wrote down every single characteristic mentioned. Clean, critical, loyal, helpful, organized, reserved. It was like reading a manual for a perfectly boring robot.
- PHASE 2: THE SEX TRAITS. This is where things got wild. Half the videos claimed they were shy, needing tender love and care. The other half yelled that they were secret freaks who needed control and roughness. I cross-referenced this against the “loyalty” claims, and the whole picture immediately broke. How can you be reserved and crazy, and the most loyal sign? It was a mess.
- PHASE 3: THE ACTION PLAN. I created a stupid scorecard based on what the guides said I should look for: Did they clean my dishes? (Virgo check). Did they criticize my shirt? (Virgo check). Did they send a slightly unhinged late-night text? (Wait, that contradicts the reserved check.)
After three days of this, I trashed the scorecard. The guidance was too contradictory to mean anything. Every Virgo trait had an equal and opposite trait depending on which YouTube “expert” was talking. The initial practice was a failure because the data source—the videos—were total garbage.
THE REAL REASON I BOTHERED: THE CRASH AND BURN
I wouldn’t have wasted my time on any of this if my life hadn’t totally imploded three months back. This wasn’t a casual project; it was a desperate attempt to make sense of what was happening to me.
I had this contract, right? A huge one. I had been banging out these reports for eight weeks straight, basically living on coffee and zero sleep. The client finally called, and I thought, “Great, big check coming.” Instead, they slammed me with a penalty clause. They claimed the formatting was off, which was BS, but I lost the entire payment. It was tens of thousands of dollars just gone because of some technicality. I was financially gutted. I was ready to burn everything down.
Now, the person I was seeing, let’s call them V, was a Virgo. Textbook. Every YouTube guide said a Virgo would swoop in, budget my finances, and logically explain why I should sue the client. They’d be super helpful and practical.
That is not what happened.
When I called V to vent, expecting the logical, organizational response, they didn’t offer to help with the lawsuit. They didn’t help me budget. They didn’t even tell me to clean up my apartment. Instead, they just showed up at my door at 1 AM with a giant mess of terrible takeout food and a bottle of cheap whiskey. They sat on the floor next to me, watched me rage for an hour, and then we just talked nonsense until the sun came up. No fixing. No criticism. Pure, messy, unplanned emotional support.
The next day, the same person who demands their towels be folded a certain way and has a meticulous savings plan literally stole me away for a weekend road trip. Unplanned. Reckless. Total financial irresponsibility. It was the least “Virgo” thing any person could have done.
THE REALIZATION: TRASHING THE GUIDEBOOK
My practice of watching 40 YouTube guides was worthless. My real-world practice—the crash and burn moment—was the only thing that taught me anything. The guides painted a picture of a human being who operates like an efficient spreadsheet. My actual Virgo experience was a person who ditched the manual completely when the real, messy human stuff hit the fan. They were messy, chaotic, and emotionally present when the book said they should be meticulous and critical.
The “sex love traits” aren’t about star signs. They’re about how a person reacts when their partner is broken. V’s reaction was not to fix things but to be there in the mess. It was way more loving than any budget spreadsheet ever could be. I realized that all those “shy” versus “freak” videos were garbage because real love is not categorized. My final practical record showed that Virgos don’t love according to a list; they love by breaking their own rules for you.
I deleted all my notes and haven’t watched a guide since. The answer to ‘Do Virgos love?’ is ‘Yes, but they will completely ignore the official instruction manual while doing it.’ That was the only truth I managed to find.
