Y’all wanna know what El Mago, The Magician, is yelling at you about love, right? Forget all that airy-fairy textbook stuff. I’ve been logging readings for years, and when this card shows up in a love reading, it’s not subtle. It means one thing: Get off your ass and make something happen.
I started this whole log because I was sick of readings that just said, “Wait and see.” That’s useless advice. I wanted action steps. I grabbed my deck—the trusty Rider-Waite, because it’s blunt and I knew it would talk straight—and dedicated a solid month to just tracking the action cards in complicated love spreads. El Mago (The Magician) kept jumping out, insisting on its importance.
The Action Log: What I Did
The practice wasn’t initially about forecasting; it was about defining the next practical, real-world move you could make. When I first pulled El Mago for a baseline, I saw the guy with all the tools on the table—the Wand, the Cup, the Sword, the Pentacle. He’s got the power, he’s got the energy, and he’s totally ready to manifest. But how does that translate into a confusing, modern dating life? That’s what I needed to document.
I set up a dedicated journal (none of that app nonsense, I needed paper and a pen) and titled the section: ‘Mago Manifestation Logs.’ I started compiling friend requests—these were messy situations involving on-again, off-again partners, or dating someone who refused to commit after months of seeing them. Every single person was stuck in neutral.
The first readings were a mess. If I asked, “What is this person thinking about commitment?” and got El Mago, the reading felt like junk. El Mago is not ‘thinking,’ El Mago is ‘doing.’ So I had to change every single question to be action-focused. I had to force the card to give me an instruction.
- I threw out all questions that started with: What will happen… or How do they feel…
- I focused solely on this single structure: What action must I initiate right now to move this situation forward, or to define it?
I tracked the four suits as the tools of The Magician. The Wand means passion and initiation; the Cup means emotional conversation; the Sword means clarity and boundary-setting; the Pentacle means practicality, maybe sharing finances or establishing real-world stability. The card was telling me: Pick one of those suits/actions and use it.
For 30 days straight, I logged the readings, the suggested action, the action the person actually took, and the final, immediate result. I was documenting causality, not fate. This whole process was about drilling down into what initiation really looks like in love, instead of passively waiting for a text message.
The Real Talk: Why I Went This Deep
I spent so much time on this specific card because I was completely, truly stuck myself. This wasn’t some cold, objective academic exercise. I was in a situation with someone who was a master of the dreaded ‘soft fade.’ One minute we were planning a trip, the next minute I couldn’t get a clear answer about next Friday. It was mixed signals and total non-committal nonsense. I was feeling like a victim, the exact opposite energy of El Mago.
I went to a professional reader out of frustration. They pulled El Mago and said, “They have all the tools to communicate, but they are choosing not to. The power is in their hands.” I walked out feeling angry and confused, because that information didn’t help me at all. I decided to become my own reader right then and there.
I went home and practically slapped the deck onto the table, throwing down my journal. I drew El Mago again, and that’s when the shift happened. The card wasn’t pointing at the person confusing me; it was pointing at me. The power wasn’t in their hands, the power was in the space between my hands and the deck.
The card was yelling: Stop waiting for the other person to make a move. You have the four elemental tools—the four suits—right there on the table. Stop pretending you’re powerless. Use one. Use them all. Manifest the boundary, manifest the honest conversation, or manifest the exit, but don’t just sit there.
The next morning, I took the action I had been too scared to take. I didn’t wait for the evasive text I knew was coming. I fired off a simple, blunt, Sword-energy text that ended the ambiguity completely—and, unsurprisingly, ended the whole messy situation. The sense of immediate, decisive relief and peace was the real manifestation of The Magician’s power. It taught me that in love, El Mago is often the card that tells you to end the ambiguity, not just create something new.
Final Log Entry
If El Mago shows up in your love reading, you aren’t being asked to wait for some magical thing to happen to you. You are the magic. You need to identify the action, grab the necessary tool (a clear email, an honest talk, a a decisive no, or setting a date), and use it. It’s the card of self-determination and initiative in love. If you don’t pick up the tool, you lose the chance. Plain and simple. The practice proved it. My own messy relationship proved it. Take the lead, y’all. Stop playing the victim and start being the magician.
