Alright so here’s how this whole fish-and-virgin sex thing went down for us. My girlfriend’s the Virgo, super detail-oriented, kinda gets stuck in her head. Me? Total Pisces – daydreamer, gets lost in feelings. Sex started feeling… off. Like we just weren’t syncing up. Found this compatibility thing online and figured, why not try some tricks?
Step 1: Actually Talking (Way Harder Than It Sounds)
First trick was just talking about it openly. Sounds simple, right? Total nightmare at first. Sat down after dinner, kinda awkward, neither of us wanting to start. I finally just blurted out, “Hey, sometimes it feels like we’re kinda… missing each other?” She immediately jumped on that Virgo vibe – started listing specific times she felt disconnected. It was nitpicky, but actually helpful. Learned she needed more specific cues, less “vibes.” I needed her to chill on the overthinking sometimes. Heavy stuff, but necessary.
Step 2: Getting Sensory Like a Pisces
Next step was my department: setting the mood for the senses. Virgos can be tense, all up in their brains. My job was to get her out of her head. I went full Pisces:
- Dimmed the stupidly bright overhead light, used fairy lights instead.
- Put on some nature sounds playlist she found relaxing.
- Literally bought unscented massage oil (Virgo-approved non-mess).
Just focused on touch, sound, the feel. Didn’t rush anything. Just slow touches, back rub, paying attention to how her breathing changed. This was way more effective than I thought. She finally stopped analyzing and started feeling. Big win for Team Fish.
Step 3: The Virgo Needs a Damn Plan
Okay, here’s where I had to embrace her Virgo reality. She suggested trying something kinda embarrassing but logical: making a loose “schedule” for foreplay. Sounds awful, right? Not sex-spontaneity at all! But honestly? Game changer for her. Didn’t mean strict timing. Just kinda like:
- Kissing and touching for X minutes.
- Then maybe oral.
- Then whatever.
Having that rough, flexible roadmap calmed her Virgo anxiety about “not doing it right.” It was weird for me, sure. But seeing her relax that much? Totally worth feeling slightly unspontaneous. She felt prepared, I got a partner who wasn’t stressed. It worked.
How It Actually Went Down
Tried all this last weekend. Started with the mood setting – lighting, music, oil. She visibly untensed a little. Then followed the rough plan (ugh, but okay). Went slow, focused on touch and sensation, whispering little appreciations (Pisces-style emotional connection). Checked in verbally a few times – “This okay?” “Feels good?” – which helped her Virgo need for clarity.
Result? Way more connected than we’ve been in ages. She stayed present instead of drifting off worrying. I felt understood on that emotional-sense level. Sex felt less like a missed connection and more like we were finally tuned to the same station. Not perfect magic, but hell of a lot better. Definitely keeping these tricks in rotation.
