So I got this idea after my Virgo boyfriend was driving me nuts again – me being an Aries and all, always ready to fight when he starts overanalyzing my damn cereal choices. Seriously dude, it’s just Cheerios. Anyway, figured some astro tips might help our gay mess of a relationship.
First, I tried the communication thing.
Sat us down with coffee – no yelling, promise. Virgos gotta verbalize every feeling, right? Tried letting him ramble about why my laundry habits are “problematic”. Bit my tongue raw but nodded along. Actually… worked? He chilled out after 45 minutes of critique. My takeaway: Let Virgos talk themselves out. They just need to feel heard.
Next up: Planning stupid little dates.
Virgos love order, Aries love spontaneity – train wreck waiting. So I booked a pottery class. Structured, creative, totally not his bathroom-clean day. Shockingly, he loved it. I almost threw clay at the wall outta boredom, BUT seeing him meticulously smooth a vase? Weirdly cute. Compromise: He gets his plan, I get novelty. Win-win.
Then came the physical touch drama.
My Aries ass wants wrestling/hugging/kissing – NOW. He wants a scheduled massage. Seriously? Tried meeting halfway: Quick kisses when I get impulsive, longer cuddle sessions only after he finishes reorganizing the spice rack. Not perfect, but the silent treatment decreased by 70%. Small victories.
What flopped? The damn routines.
Tried his “Sunday spreadsheet session” where we plan meals, chores, intimacy times… felt like corporate jail. Lasted 20 minutes. My notes:
- Nope.
- Nope.
- Burned the spreadsheet.
He sighed. I made pancakes. We pretend it never happened.
Final tip? Honoring independence.
Stopped dragging him to every party. Let him stay home with his plant journal. Went alone, got my social fix, didn’t annoy him. Came back happy, he was happy plants got documented. Huge revelation: Sometimes space = peace.
Look, we still fight over dust bunnies and my impulsive tattoo ideas. But these dumb little changes? Actually helping. Still gay. Still fiery Aries. Still finicky Virgo. Just… slightly less at war. Mostly.
