You know, for a long time, I just thought tarot was all about fortune-telling, right? Like, a crystal ball, but with cards. I mean, I’d dabble, pull a card here and there, mostly just for fun. Never really took it seriously. But then, things got a bit messy in my own life, especially on the love front. My partner and I, we were just stuck. It wasn’t a huge fight, more like a slow, quiet drifting apart. I couldn’t put my finger on it.
So, one evening, feeling really down, I pulled out my old deck, just asking for some clarity, you know? And BAM, there it was. The Judgement card. But it wasn’t upright. It was reversed.
My First Instincts and the Real Dig
My first thought? “Oh great, I’m doomed.” Classic, right? My mind immediately jumped to the worst. I figured it meant all decisions were bad, or judgment day was coming for my relationship in the worst way possible. I remember flipping through my little guidebook, and it just gave a bunch of generic stuff. Not really helpful when your heart’s aching. So, I put that book down.
I started doing what I always do when I really want to understand something – I started observing. I pulled that card again, and again, for myself, for a couple of friends going through similar relationship ruts. And slowly, a pattern started to form, not just from the book, but from what I was seeing in real life. I actually started keeping a little notebook, jotting down what happened each time that reversed Judgement popped up in a love reading, and then what actually unfolded over the next few weeks or months. It was like my own personal case study.
What I Actually Found Out About Judgement Reversed in Love
What I found out, after countless pulls and just watching how things played out, was way different from my initial panic. When the Judgement card shows up reversed in a love reading, it’s not about being “judged” in a bad way. Not really. It’s more about being stuck in a loop, not learning from past stuff. Like, you know that feeling when you keep having the same argument with your partner, or you keep dating the “wrong type” of person, even though you know it’s not working? That’s it.
It’s like the universe is saying, “Hey, buddy, are you really listening to what happened before? Are you processing it, or just brushing it under the rug?”
- Refusing to Learn: Often, this card reversed screamed that someone, or both people in the relationship, were just refusing to look at their past actions or mistakes. It could be plain old stubbornness. I saw it happen with a friend who kept getting back with an ex, swearing “this time it’ll be different,” even though every time before ended the same messy way. The card was practically yelling at her to learn!
- Harsh Self-Criticism or Doubt: Sometimes, it wasn’t about refusing to learn, but being so hard on yourself that you couldn’t move forward. You’d judge yourself so harshly for past relationship failures, you’d paralyze any chance for real connection or growth in a current or future love. I experienced a bit of this myself; I was so busy replaying my own missteps, I couldn’t see how to fix them for the future.
- Ignoring the Call: It’s also like a wake-up call that you’re just hitting the snooze button on. There’s an opportunity for a huge breakthrough, a massive transformation in your love life, but you’re just not hearing it, or choosing not to act on it. Maybe you know deep down you need to communicate better, or leave a bad situation, but the fear or inertia keeps you stuck.
My Own Journey with This Card
With my own relationship, when I first saw that card reversed, I was blaming him for everything. But after sitting with it, really looking at it through this new lens, I started to see my part. Where I wasn’t learning. Where I was stuck repeating old patterns of not speaking up, or expecting him to read my mind. It was a tough pill to swallow, let me tell you. Nobody likes to admit they’re the one holding things back.
But once I did, once I really started to reflect on those old patterns, things started to shift. Not overnight, mind you, but slowly, surely, we started to talk about the real issues, the ones we’d been avoiding. It wasn’t about a sudden “judgement,” but about slowly, painfully, coming to terms with our past actions and making a conscious choice to do things differently. It was about taking responsibility, both for myself and for us as a couple. It didn’t mean everything became perfect, but it sure opened up the door for actual change, for a real honest look at what needed to transform in our relationship. And that, really, is what that reversed Judgement card taught me about love.
