So last Tuesday night, me and my partner totally hit a wall over text. Again. We were just trying to figure out weekend plans, and boom – suddenly it felt like we were talking different languages. Snapping at each other over pineapple on pizza toppings versus sushi? Really? Felt ridiculous after.
How I Prepared (AKA Pulled My Head Outta the Clouds)
- Dusted off that Virgo forecast: Okay, fine. I remembered seeing October was supposedly “all about communication breakdowns” for us analytical Virgos. Skeptical as hell, but desperate times.
- Highlighted the “Virgo Advice”: It basically screamed: STOP OVERTHINKING EVERY WORD. And LISTEN instead of prepping your comeback.
- Set one dumb-simple goal: Next tense chat, I wouldn’t jump straight into criticising or fixing their points. Just… try to hear the stupid sushi preference first.
The Actual Test Run (Messy, Obviously)
Next night, same scenario. Partner starts venting about a work email they got – sounded whiny to me immediately. My Virgo brain fired up: “Here’s how you should fix it…” But I physically bit my tongue. Hard.
Took a stupid-deep breath and forced myself to say: “Damn, that email sounds frustrating. What part got you most ticked off?” Felt weird. Unnatural. Like wearing shoes on the wrong feet.
Partner paused. Actually looked surprised. Then mumbled something about feeling disrespected by the tone, not just the content. Huh. Woulda missed that completely, busy crafting my genius solution.
What Actually Happened (Spoiler: Not Magic)
- Stopped the spiral: By not instantly launching into “fix-it” mode, the tension didn’t skyrocket. Small win.
- Heard the hidden bit: The disrespect thing? Pure gold. Wasn’t just about the email content. My Virgo fix-it focus woulda totally ignored that.
- Still snapped a little: Old habits die hard. Did get snippy once when they paused too long. Baby steps. (Shout out to me muttering “patience, dumbass” under my breath).
So, did the stars fix my love life? Hell no. But dragging that Virgo forecast down to earth, pulling ONE specific, actionable thing from it (“STFU and listen first”), and actually trying it? That made a stupid difference. Like, we ate pizza (half pineapple) and didn’t fight about text messages afterwards. Tiny win for October. Virgo brain slightly quieter. For now.
