Okay, so my Virgo partner and I, I’m the Pisces, obviously, have been hitting this weird rut lately. You know how it is – life gets busy, routines set in, and that spark just… dims. We both felt it, but nobody was saying anything. Super awkward. Then I stumbled across some stuff online about Pisces and Virgo in bed, specifically ways to boost things.
Honestly, a lot of it sounded like fluffy nonsense, but hey, desperate times, right? I figured, why not give a few things a proper try and actually do them, like a little experiment? Worst case, we have a laugh. Best case… well. Here’s exactly what we did last night:
What We Actually Tried Step-by-Step
- Started with Setting the Damn Mood Properly: First thing I did was actually clean the bedroom. Like, really clean. Made the bed with fresh sheets, cleared all the crap off the floor and dresser (laundry mountain banished!). Dimmed the main light, lit a couple of those vanilla-scented candles we got as a gift ages ago and never used. Honestly, just doing that felt different already – less chaotic, less “let’s just collapse.”
- Made Communication Less Weird: Okay, this was the hardest part. Right after dinner, while loading the dishwasher together, I just kinda blurted out, “Hey, I read this thing about needing to talk about what feels good before we’re like, mid-action. Feels kinda clinical, but wanna try it?” We both laughed, it was awkward, but then we actually managed to share one small thing each later when we were chilling – me saying I liked it when he massaged my shoulders before anything else starts, him mentioning he really liked that one specific spot kissed. Small stuff, but saying it helped.
- Went Way Slower Than Usual: Seriously, we usually get down to business pretty quick. Last night, I forced myself to slow waaaay down. Like, after the candles were lit and awkward chat was done, we just lay on the bed talking about our days for ages. Then it was just cuddling. Then, only then, actual kissing started, but super slow, no pressure. Felt like forever, kind of agonizing at first, but also… intense?
- Focused Way More on Touch Everywhere: Instead of zeroing in on the obvious spots immediately, I paid a lot more attention to just… touching. Running my fingers slowly along his arm, his back, his legs, even his feet (which he weirdly liked!). He did the same back. It wasn’t necessarily “sexy” touch all the time, just contact. Made everything feel way more connected.
- Finally Used the Massage Oil We Got For Christmas: It’s literally been sitting in the cabinet for a year! We broke it out. Took turns giving each other actual back rubs, nothing crazy expectant, just focusing on feeling good with the smell and the slipperiness. Felt pampering and relaxing, took the edge off.
- Switched Things Up In a Small Way: Didn’t go crazy, didn’t break out the fancy toys or anything. But we swapped our usual positions for one we rarely start with. Such a tiny change, but it felt fresh because it wasn’t the autopilot routine. That was honestly the easiest trick on the list.
So… Did Any of This Actually Help?
Honestly? Yeah, it kinda did. It wasn’t like some movie magic explosion, but the whole vibe was completely different. The slow build-up from cleaning & candles to talking to touch meant that when we did get intimate, we were both way more present and tuned into each other. Felt less like going through the motions and way more… intentional? Connected? The awkward communication moment felt worth it later.
Was it perfect? Nah. The “romantic music playlist” I queued up felt cheesy after 5 minutes and we shut it off. And the “deep eye contact” suggestion? We lasted about 10 seconds before cracking up laughing. But the main stuff – the environment, the slowness, the focus on touch everywhere, the small change? Those things actually worked. We felt closer and way less like roommates who occasionally bump uglies. Going to try and actually keep some of these habits now. Maybe skip the eye contact, though. Too much pressure!
