Why I Decided To Dive Into “The Devil” And Love Readings
Alright, so look, I kept pulling this darn “Devil” card when asking about relationships lately. Mine, my friend’s situations… it just kept popping up. Felt creepy, right? Like what’s it even trying to say about love stuff? Got frustrating guessing. Figured instead of winging it, I’d sit down properly today and really get my hands dirty with it. Not just read some book meaning, but mess around with it myself, see what clicks in actual practice. That’s way better than theory.
My Messy Practice Session
Grabbed my deck off the shelf – this well-worn Rider-Waite one I use all the time. Cleared my small table, you know, just pushed my coffee mug aside. Focused real hard on relationships in general – not one specific person, more like patterns, common problems people face. Took some slow breaths, really tried to quiet the usual head noise, and just shuffled the cards. Felt kinda stiff at first, fingers fumbling. Shuffled for a good few minutes until it felt smoother. Cut the deck, pulled that top card… and yep, out comes The Devil again. Laughed a bit. “Alright fine, let’s talk,” I thought.
Put it right down in front of me under my lamp. Stared at it. Really looked. You see those two people chained up? The dude sitting above them? Instead of just thinking “bad vibes,” I actually tried to feel it. What do those chains represent in love? Not literal chains. It hit me: obsession? Like scrolling their feed constantly? Or feeling stuck because it’s comfy but kinda sucks? Maybe addictions messing things up? Or just a suffocating dynamic? That dude on the pedestal… is it jealousy controlling someone? Or selfishness blocking real connection?
Tried something different. Asked: “What benefit are they actually getting from staying chained?” Wild question, right? But that Devil dude looks kinda powerful, like he’s giving something. Maybe the comfort of known drama? A toxic sense of security? Like refusing to face being alone? Or avoiding the scary unknown of not being in that bad relationship? Flipped it – asked “How would things look if they just… stepped off those pedestals?” Imagined the chains being loose enough to slip off. What does that freedom feel like? What needs to happen?
Quick Stuff I Actually Figured Out By Doing This
So, after actually wrestling with the card myself, not just reading someone else’s notes, here’s the kind of raw stuff that clicked:
- Forget “Evil,” Think “Stuck” Or “Trapped”: Seriously, it’s almost never literal. Look for what’s feeling heavy, obsessive, or trapping someone in the relationship.
- Chains Usually Aren’t Locked: This floored me. Look close! The chains look big but are loose around their necks. The people could actually remove them if they bent down and committed to getting loose. Huge point! It’s often self-imposed limitations.
- Question That Comfort Zone: That little pedestal The Devil sits on? Feels familiar and “safe,” right? But ask: What bad habit or fear is masquerading as safety here? What’s being accepted because change feels harder?
- Honestly, Shine A Light On The Shadow: This card forces you to stare at the unhealthy bit you’d rather ignore. Ask bluntly: What dependency, jealousy, control issue, or toxic pattern is messing things up? Who’s avoiding real growth?
- Look For Power Dynamics: That Devil figure looming… Is there imbalance? Control? A sense someone is “possessed” by the relationship dynamic or another person? Who’s giving their power away?
- It Often Flags An Addiction: Not necessarily drugs! Addicted to drama? To the constant fighting and making up? To the chaos? Or even addicted to the feeling of passion, even if it’s destructive?
My Big Takeaway From Today’s Practice
After forcing myself to sit with it, really poke at it, The Devil card feels way less scary now. It’s not a curse, it’s a big ol’ glaring spotlight. If this pops up in a love reading, it’s not shouting “Disaster!” It’s shouting “Stop ignoring the elephant in the room! You gotta look honestly at the chains!”. The biggest gut feeling I got? The power to loosen or slip those chains is usually way closer than anyone stuck in that situation feels it is. It’s about brutal self-honesty and the willingness to stop feeling small under the things (or people) weighing you down. Practice showed me it’s way more about self-awareness than prediction. Just gotta face it.
