So I’ve been dating this Virgo guy for like two months, right? Total headache at first. Felt like walking on eggshells constantly. That’s why I went digging into “The Virgo Man Personality Explained” stuff. Needed a survival guide, seriously.
First Move: Stopped Complaining (Sorta)
Read online that Virgos hate pointless negativity. Noted. Next time he was obsessively rearranging my bookshelf by color (again), I bit my tongue. Hard. Instead, I asked how he decides the shade order. Watched his eyes light up while he explained his “system.” Didn’t love the system. But I smiled, nodded. Kept my grumbling internal. He seemed… calmer. Progress.
Attempt #2: The Praise Experiment
Articles always say Virgos crave appreciation for the little things. Figured I’d try that. Noticed he fixed my wobbly coffee table leg without me asking. Said “Hey, thanks for fixing that. You’re really good at spotting stuff like that.” Honestly, expected maybe a smile. Got a grunt and “Well, it was structurally unsound. Could’ve collapsed.” Classic. Felt dumb. But later he did quietly make my favourite tea. Tiny win?
The Details Trap
Planning a weekend trip became a nightmare. He needed exact train times, backup bus schedules, restaurant menus checked, weather forecasts for three different locations. I snapped: “Can’t we just GO?” Big mistake. Cue the frosty silence and spreadsheet-making. Learned: Don’t dismiss the details. Now, I throw him the small stuff. “Could you research train options?” It keeps him busy, lets me pick the restaurant myself. Compromise, sort of.
My Big Mistake (And Fix)
Biggest fight? His brutal honesty. Told me my new jacket looked “cheap.” Ouch. Got defensive, yelled about rude comments. He looked baffled: “I was stating a fact. Poor stitching.” Ugh. The article clicked: He wasn’t insulting me. He genuinely thought sharing observations was helpful. Now, if it’s unsolicited feedback on my stuff, I just say, “Noted. Let’s talk about something else.” Saves us both drama. Also told him directly what comments about my appearance feel like personal attacks. He actually apologized. Miracles happen.
The Real Takeaway After Weeks
It ain’t about changing him. Handling Virgo men = adjusting YOUR reactions.
- Stop personalizing the criticism. It’s usually not aimed at you.
- Let them handle logistics. They’re happy fixing chaos. Less work for you!
- Be blunt about your needs. Hinting? Forget it. They won’t get it. Say “I need X.”
- Don’t expect emotional fireworks. His way of caring? Fixing your leaky tap. Silently saving your fav biscuit for you.
Is it exhausting sometimes? Hell yes. But now I get how his brain ticks. Mostly. Still won’t let him near my wardrobe though. Some “helpful observations” are better left unsaid.
