So I was scrolling through my social media feed this morning and I saw this post about Virgo women. It was like, “Here are the toxic traits you need to watch out for.” And I’m sitting there, a Virgo woman myself, thinking, “Oh, this is gonna be good.” I decided to dive in and see what the internet thinks is wrong with me today.
Starting the Investigation
First thing I did was open up a blank document. I figured I should actually list out these so-called toxic traits one by one. I wanted to see if they held any water or if it was just more astrology nonsense. I started reading the article and my first reaction was to get defensive, but I took a deep breath and told myself to be objective. Yeah, right.
The Nitty-Gritty Process
I went through each point they made. Here’s basically how it went down in my head:
- Point 1: Overly Critical. Okay, fine. I immediately thought of three times just this week I corrected my partner on how to load the dishwasher correctly. But is it criticism or just helpful guidance? The world may never know. I wrote down “dishwasher incident” as a case study.
- Point 2: Perfectionist to a Fault. I spent 20 minutes this morning aligning the rug in my living room so the pattern was perfectly straight with the floorboards. I left myself a note: “Maybe chill on the rug.”
- Point 3: Worries Too Much. I literally have a spreadsheet for potential vacation scenarios, including a column for “unforeseen weather events.” I added “anxiety spreadsheet” to my list of evidence.
- Point 4: Can Be Cold or Distant. I remembered that time my friend was venting about her drama and I started analyzing the situation logically instead of just giving her a hug. I cringed a little. Noted.
- Point 5: Stubborn as Hell. I once argued for an hour that my way of folding socks was the most space-efficient method, even after someone showed me a video proving otherwise. I still fold them my way. Added “sock gate” to the record.
Putting It All Together
After I had my list, I just stared at it. It was kinda brutal seeing it all written out like that. It’s one thing to know you have these tendencies, it’s another to have them called “toxic traits” in a headline. I decided to not just get annoyed, but to actually think about it. I asked myself, “Okay, which of these actually cause problems for me or the people around me?” The worrying and the criticism parts definitely stood out.
So I made a little action plan. For one week, I’m gonna try to catch myself before I offer unsolicited advice. And I’m gonna limit myself to checking my budget spreadsheet only once a day instead of five times. Small steps.
Wrapping Up
In the end, was the article totally wrong? Nah, not really. It was a bit harsh with the word “toxic,” but it did point out some real patterns. The whole practice was actually pretty useful. It forced me to take a hard look at my own behavior instead of just reading my horoscope and feeling good about it. I guess sometimes you need a push to work on yourself, even if it comes from a clickbait title.
