So I noticed a lot of Virgos asking about love this year, and honestly, I was in the same boat. I decided to actually try some things instead of just reading about them. Here’s exactly what I did, step by step.
First, I Had to Get Real with Myself
I started by just sitting down with a notebook. No phone, no distractions. I wrote down all the little things that were bugging me in my relationship. Not the big fights, but the stupid stuff, like how my partner leaves dishes in the sink or never puts their shoes away. I also wrote down what I knew I was doing wrong. It was kinda uncomfortable, but necessary.
Tip 1: The Weekly Check-In (This Was Awkward at First)
My first practical step was to force a weekly chat. I told my partner, “Hey, let’s just grab a coffee every Sunday and talk for 15 minutes about us. No blaming, just talking.” The first time was so weird. We just sat there mostly silent. But by the third week, we actually started talking about small things that bothered us without getting defensive. The key was I made it a non-negotiable part of our routine, like taking out the trash.
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What I actually did:
- Set a recurring alarm on my phone for Sunday at 10 AM.
- Bought our favorite coffee to make it feel like a treat, not a chore.
- Started with a positive thing each time, like “I really appreciated when you made dinner on Tuesday.”
Tip 2: I Stopped Trying to “Fix” Everything
This was the hardest one for me. As a Virgo, I see a problem and my brain immediately goes into solution mode. My partner would complain about work stress, and I’d launch into a 10-point plan to fix their career. They didn’t want that. They just wanted me to listen. So I practiced biting my tongue. Literally, sometimes I’d just press my lips together and nod. I’d say, “That sounds really tough,” instead of “Here’s what you should do.” It felt unnatural, but it worked. They started opening up way more.
Tip 3: Scheduling Fun (Sounds Lame, Works Great)
I looked at our calendars and realized we had zero fun planned. It was all work, chores, and obligations. So I took charge and booked stuff. I didn’t ask for opinions for once; I just did it. I booked a beginner’s pottery class for next month and bought tickets to a comedy show. I even put a “date night” block on our shared calendar every other week. At first, my partner was like, “We have to schedule fun?” But after the first comedy show, we were laughing so hard we forgot about everything else. It reminded us why we liked each other in the first place.
So that’s my real-life experiment. It wasn’t magic. It was awkward, I messed up sometimes, but just by doing these three simple things consistently, the vibe in our apartment has totally changed. It’s less about perfection and more about just showing up and trying.
