Man, sometimes you just get curious, right? You look at your life, or your friends’ lives, and you start seeing patterns. Or at least, you think you see patterns. Especially when it comes to relationships, dating, all that jazz. I mean, is it just random? Or is there something, some vibe, some energy that makes certain times better than others?
I started noticing how some months just felt… different. Like, suddenly everyone around me was either breaking up or getting together. And I was like, what the heck is going on? Is it the moon? The stars? Or just coincidence? I kept wondering if I could kinda crack the code, you know? See if there was a way to figure out when things might generally trend one way or another for people.
So, I decided to actually do something about it. Not just wonder, but really try to track stuff. This was a few years back, and I was kinda bored and feeling a bit restless with my own love life, or lack thereof. I figured, why not try to build my own little system? My own “dating insights” tracker, if you will, but for real-world stuff, not just some generic advice.
First thing I did was grab a big, chunky notebook. Not digital, nope. I wanted to feel the paper, scribble things down. I started jotting down observations. For myself, obviously, but also for my close friends, with their permission, of course. I told them what I was doing, and they mostly just laughed, but a few were like, “Alright, weirdo, let us know if you find anything.”
I started by giving each month a “vibe score” based on the general mood around relationships. Did people seem more open? More stressed? More prone to fights? I’d mark down notable events too – a first date, a big fight, a breakup, getting exclusive. I tried to note down the day of the week, even the weather sometimes, because hey, maybe that had an impact. I was really getting into it, I gotta tell ya. I would sit there at night, flipping through pages, trying to connect the dots.
The tracking itself became a huge task. I mean, remembering every little detail, every mood swing, every text exchange. It was like I was becoming a detective of my own social circle. I tried to categorize things. Was it a “new beginnings” month? A “rocky road” month? A “boring” month? I even tried to assign a number to how “lucky” or “unlucky” the general vibe felt for dating for me and my close ones. I thought, if I collect enough data, something’s gotta jump out.
I ended up with pages and pages of notes. My notebook was getting thicker than a dictionary. I tried to use different colored pens for different types of events – red for fights, green for good dates, blue for just chill stuff. I even drew little smiley or frowny faces next to entries. It was pretty elaborate, I’m not gonna lie. My desk was a mess of open notebooks and old calendars.
But then, after a few months of this intense tracking, I started to hit a wall. I had all this “data,” but making sense of it was a whole other beast. I’d try to look for correlations. “Okay, so when Mercury is doing whatever it does, do more people get into arguments?” Or, “Does a full moon really mean more first dates?” The truth is, it was all over the place.
One month, it seemed like my “system” was totally onto something. Everyone was having good luck, just like I’d predicted based on some hazy criteria I’d come up with. The next month, it was a total bust. Things I thought were clear patterns just crumbled. Someone would break up when they were “supposed” to be having a great time. Someone else would find someone amazing out of the blue during what I had labeled a “low energy” period. It was frustrating.
I remember one specific evening, I was hunched over my notebook, surrounded by empty coffee cups, trying to force a pattern out of all this mess. I was getting nowhere. My head hurt. And suddenly, it just hit me. Like a ton of bricks. What was I even doing?
I realized I was trying to impose order on something that’s inherently chaotic and deeply personal. Relationships, dating – it’s not a formula. It’s not some predictable cycle you can chart out with a pen and paper. Every person is different, every situation unique. You can’t just slap a “good month” or “bad month” label on human connection and expect it to stick.
This whole exercise, while totally wacky, actually taught me something important. It wasn’t about finding the “answer” or predicting dating success like some monthly horoscope. It was about something much simpler.
- I started listening more when my friends talked about their relationship stuff. Not to track it, but to actually hear them.
- I paid more attention to my own feelings and intuition, rather than trying to fit them into some pre-conceived idea of what a “good” or “bad” period was supposed to be.
- And most importantly, I learned that life, and love, doesn’t follow a script. It’s messy, it’s surprising, and that’s actually a beautiful thing.
So, yeah, my grand “dating insights” tracking project never really gave me the magical answers I was looking for. No secret formula discovered. But what it did give me was a better appreciation for the unpredictability of human connection, and a good laugh at my own earnest, slightly obsessive attempt to make sense of it all.
These days, I just roll with it. Some months are good, some are a bit rough. That’s just how it goes. No charts, no vibe scores. Just living it.
