Alright so I was digging into this whole Virgo Venus and Leo Venus compatibility thing because my friend Sarah and her boyfriend Mark are a total mess right now. He’s got Venus in Leo, she’s got Venus in Virgo, and they’re constantly butting heads. She’s all about the little details and he just wants a grand gesture. I figured I’d try to figure it out for them, and for myself, just to see what’s what.
Starting with the Basics
First thing I did was just open a bunch of tabs on my laptop. I’m not an astrologer, so I had to start from scratch. I read the simple descriptions: Venus in Leo is super dramatic, loves big displays of affection, and wants to be adored. Venus in Virgo is practical, shows love by fixing things or helping out, and pays attention to the small stuff. Right away, I saw the problem. It’s like one person is screaming “LOOK AT ME, I LOVE YOU!” and the other is quietly mending their favorite shirt.
My Real-Life Experiment
I decided to use my own relationship as a bit of a lab. I have Venus in Virgo, and my partner, let’s call him Alex, has Venus in Leo. I started paying real close attention to our interactions for a whole week.
- Day 1: Alex planned a fancy dinner date. My Virgo Venus brain immediately started calculating the cost and thinking, “We could have made a nice meal at home for a fraction of the price.” But I stopped myself. I went along, let him have his moment, and honestly thanked him sincerely. He was beaming.
- Day 3: I noticed his car was a mess. So my Virgo Venus kicked in and I spent an hour cleaning it out, organizing the glove compartment, and filling up the gas tank. I didn’t make a big deal about it. Later, he noticed and was genuinely touched, but I could tell he was a little confused. It wasn’t a “big” enough expression for him.
- Day 5: We had a small disagreement. My instinct was to analyze every word and figure out the “perfect” solution. His instinct was to buy flowers and try to sweep it under the rug with a grand romantic gesture. We kind of met in the middle—I let him make the gesture, and then we talked about the issue calmly after.
What I Figured Out
By the end of the week, it clicked. It’s not about one being right and the other wrong. It’s about translation. The Leo Venus’s big displays are their way of doing what the Virgo Venus does with small acts. They’re both trying to show they care, just in a totally different language.
The trick is to appreciate the other person’s language. I learned to accept the fancy dinners as his way of saying “you’re important to me.” And he learned to see that me organizing his closet is my version of a love song. It’s not natural at first. You have to practice. You have to force yourself to see the love behind the action, even if the action itself seems silly or too subtle.
So yeah, that’s my practice record. It’s not a magic fix, but it’s a start. For Sarah and Mark, I told them to just try and “translate” each other’s actions for a week. See if it helps. It’s definitely helping me and Alex stop stepping on each other’s cosmic toes.
