Alright so today I wanted to dig into something I keep seeing online: Virgo women and their so-called “bad traits.” I figured instead of just reading about it, I should actually talk to a few Virgo women I know and see what’s up. My goal was simple: listen, compare notes, and see if these top three flaws people always mention actually hold water.
Starting the conversations
First thing I did was hit up my friend Sarah, who’s a total Virgo. I just asked her straight up, “Hey, people online say Virgo women can be super critical. What do you think?” She laughed and said, “Yeah, I get that. But it’s not about being mean. If I point something out, it’s because I know you can do better. It’s like, why settle for okay?” That made me pause. It wasn’t just nagging; it came from a place of wanting things to be right.
Moving to the next flaw
Next, I called my cousin Maya, another Virgo. I brought up the second big complaint: overthinking. I asked her if she ever feels stuck in her own head. She sighed and said, “Are you kidding? All the time. I’ll replay a conversation from three years ago and cringe. It’s exhausting. But it’s also why I’m usually prepared for stuff. I’ve already thought through every possible disaster.” So the flaw is real, but it’s tied to this need to be prepared and avoid messing ups.
The third one hit close to home
The last trait was being overly practical or cold. I thought about my coworker, Lisa. I remembered a time when I was super stressed about a project, and instead of just saying “It’ll be okay,” she started listing practical steps to fix it. At the time, I just wanted sympathy, and it felt a bit cold. But when I asked her about it later, she said, “I hate seeing people struggle when there’s a clear solution. Feeling bad doesn’t fix the problem. Action does.” It wasn’t a lack of care; it was a different way of showing it.
Putting it all together
After these talks, my main takeaway was this:
- Critical? Yeah, but it’s a high standards thing. It’s not about putting people down. It’s frustration when things are done half-way.
- Overthinkers? Absolutely. But that’s the flip side of being detail-oriented and wanting to get it right the first time.
- Cold or practical? It often looks that way, but it’s really just a focus on solutions over emotions. They show they care by trying to help you solve the problem.
So are these “bad traits”? I don’t think so anymore. They’re just strengths that get misunderstood. People see the criticism but miss the high standards. They see the overthinking but miss the preparedness. They see the practicality but miss the desire to actually help. My practice of just asking and listening totally changed my perspective.
