Alright so here’s how I figured this out step by step. Needed to understand Virgo guys better after some real awkward interactions. Not gonna lie, I took notes. Like actual handwritten notes on crumpled paper while sitting at Starbucks.
The Starting Point: Just Observing
First, I made a list of Virgo dudes I knew personally. My cousin Ben, ex-coworker Dave, and this guy Mark from my yoga class. I watched them quietly for weeks. Not in a creepy way! More like… noticing patterns.
Phase one findings:
- Ben would rearrange his coffee mugs twice a day – same spot every time.
- Dave sent back a burger because the pickle touched the bun “wrong.”
- Mark corrected the yoga instructor’s Sanskrit pronunciation. Twice.
Okay, so control freak vibes. Check.
Digging Deeper: The Annoying Stuff
Next, I straight-up asked them about their pet peeves. Big mistake. Ben gave me a 20-minute rant about people chewing loudly. Dave started dusting my bookshelf while talking. Mark emailed me bullet points afterward. They all shared this weird combo of fussiness and helpfulness.
Wrote down the top weaknesses I spotted for real:
Common Flaws Unfiltered:
- Overthinking EVERYTHING: Takes Ben 3 hours to pick a Netflix show. Analyzes trailers like it’s his PhD thesis.
- Nitpick Central: Dave once circled typos in my birthday card with red pen. Who does that?!
- Zero Chill About Mess: Mark saw a water stain on my table and silently wiped it with his sleeve. Awkward.
- Secretly Insecure: Compliment Ben’s shirt? He’ll panic and say it’s wrinkled or old.
Trying Fixes That Actually Worked
Experiment time. Used Ben as a test subject first – sorry cuz. When he started over-explaining microwave settings, I cut him off with “Got it!” and moved fast. Worked! Short-circuit his over-analysis.
For Dave’s nitpicking? Preempted it. Asked him where to put my coffee cup BEFORE he could frown at me. His eyes lit up. He practically hugged me.
Mark’s cleaning anxiety? Dropped a chip on purpose. Didn’t react. He twitched… but resisted cleaning it! Small wins.
The Ugly Part Where I Failed Hard
Tried reassuring Ben about his outfit. Said “You look fine!” Epic fail. He changed shirts twice and was late. Lesson: “Fine” = disaster. Now I say “The blue shirt? Sharp.” SPECIFICS or nothing.
Real Talk Takeaways
At the end of the day, their “flaws” come from wanting things “right.” Exhausting? Hell yes. But kinda useful if you steer them right.
My Go-To Moves Now:
- Give them a system (ANY system) to follow
- Say “your call” when indecision hits
- Praise the little details they fix
- Never expect spontaneous road trips
Look – you can’t “fix” a Virgo man. Just channel their weirdness. Redirect the nitpicking onto stuff you want organized. Hack their brains. Work smarter.
