So I kept seeing this question pop up in my astrology groups and forums – what are the bad traits of a Virgo woman? Honestly, I got tired of just reading opinions. I decided to actually go out and find some real Virgo women and just… listen. Not just ask them directly, but observe and talk to people who know them well. This is how it went down.
Starting the hunt
First thing I did was hit up a few local hobby spots. I know a couple of Virgo women from my book club, so I started there. I didn’t walk in and demand a list of their flaws, that would be crazy. I just paid closer attention to our conversations, especially when we were planning the next meeting or discussing a book choice.
I noticed a pattern right away. One woman, let’s call her Sarah, would take the lead on organizing everything. But it was the little things. She’d rewrite the email reminder three times. She’d ask for everyone’s food allergies a week in advance, then double-check the day before. It wasn’t annoying, but you could see the stress on her face. She couldn’t just let things be good enough.
Digging deeper with friends and family
Next, I talked to my friend whose sister is a Virgo. I asked him, “Man, what’s it really like? Be honest.” And he just laughed. He said the biggest thing is the criticism. It’s never mean, but it’s constant.
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He gave me a few examples:
- He’d cook a nice dinner, and she’d say, “This is great, but you know, if you added the spices a minute later, it would really unlock the flavor.”
- He’d buy a new shirt, and she’d immediately point out a loose thread he hadn’t noticed.
- She’s always trying to “fix” things about people, thinking she’s helping.
He loves her to death, but he said you have to have a thick skin. It’s like she has a built-in radar for anything that’s not perfect.
The overthinking is real
I also managed to have a coffee with Sarah from the book club. I steered the conversation towards decision-making. She told me she spent two weeks researching which new laptop to buy. Two weeks! Reading every review, comparing specs, making spreadsheets. She admitted she gets completely paralyzed by choices because she’s terrified of making the wrong one. She’ll analyze every possible outcome until she’s exhausted. That’s not a chill way to live.
Putting it all together
So after all this listening and observing, the “bad traits” aren’t really evil. They’re just… intense. They come from a place of wanting everything to be orderly and perfect.
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Here’s the list I ended up with:
- Overly critical: Not to hurt you, but because they see every tiny flaw and feel the need to point it out.
- Control issues: They have a hard time delegating because they worry it won’t be done right. Their way is the “right” way.
- Worrywarts: They overthink and stress about things that other people just let go. They imagine worst-case scenarios.
- Can be picky and hard to please: Their standards are sky-high, for themselves and everyone around them.
It was a fun little project. You hear these traits listed all the time, but seeing them play out in real life is different. They’re not bad people at all. In fact, they’re incredibly loyal and hardworking. You just gotta understand where they’re coming from.
