Man, let me tell you, for a long time there, I felt like I was just running on a treadmill that someone kept setting to a random speed. I was making big decisions, sure, but I was always second-guessing myself, always bouncing between two totally opposite ideas. Like, straight-up paralyzed by choice. It sucked the energy right out of me.
I got to a point maybe six months ago where I just threw my hands up. I was burnt out from just trying to figure out which way was up. I wasn’t looking for therapy or life coaching or any of that fancy stuff. I was looking for a cheat sheet. I wanted something simple, something I could look at and say, “Okay, this is what I’m built for. This is my factory setting.”
The Mess I Was In and How I Stumbled Upon the Math
I was just messing around online one night, deep down some rabbit hole about personality tests—you know how it goes—and I kept seeing this weird concept pop up: The Tarot Birth Card. I’d always thought Tarot was just those ladies in a tent telling you about a handsome stranger, but this was different. This was just simple math. It was about taking your birthday, reducing it down, and finding two cards that represent your life’s path and your core traits.
I figured, what the heck, I’ve got nothing to lose. So I pulled out my date of birth. It’s a pretty long number, right? My first action was simple: I took every single digit and I added them up. I just keyed it all into the calculator on my phone. Easy. I got a big, chunky number.
The second action was the rule for finding the Birth Card. I had to reduce that big number down. So I took the resulting digits of that sum and added them together again. I kept doing this until I got a single digit, and man, when the dust settled, my number was 6. My path cards were The Lovers and The Devil. That sounded heavy, but also… oddly accurate for someone who felt stuck between heaven and hell all the time.
That moment was the spark. That’s when I switched from just winging it to actually documenting what this number 6 stuff means. I didn’t just read one article. I opened maybe twenty different tabs, grabbed my old notebook, and I started writing down every single positive trait—the “best” stuff—that every site agreed on. I wanted the consensus on what a true number 6 person looks like when they are firing on all cylinders, not when they are a complete mess, which is what I was.
The Deep Dive: Documenting the “Six” Factory Settings
I realized the core of this number wasn’t just being a wishy-washy person who can’t choose. It was about Harmony and Choice, man. It’s about balance. The moment I started tracking these traits, I started spotting them in my own life. It was like I was looking at a blueprint I never knew I had. This was the biggest part of the practice—the validation action.
I spent weeks cross-referencing my own actions with these traits. When I was feeling good, what was I doing? When I was making a solid decision, what internal traits was I using?
Here’s what I documented as the absolute best, the foundation stuff for number 6 people:
- They are the natural glue. They just know how to bring people together, whether it’s a family reunion or a crazy project team. They instinctively understand group dynamics. I realized I was always the one the whole team turned to when things got awkward, and I never understood why I took that job on. Now I know. It’s the setting.
- They have serious vision for beauty and harmony. This isn’t just about looking good. It’s about creating a harmonious environment. Everything from the music you play to the way you organize your desk—it has to feel right, or it drives you crazy. I always thought I was just obsessive about my apartment, but really, it’s my number 6 needing things to vibrate correctly.
- They make incredible partners and friends. Because they are constantly dealing with the duality of The Lovers and The Devil, they understand commitment and temptation deeply. When they commit, they commit hard. They crave that deep, soulful connection. Finding this trait made me stop apologizing for needing real connection instead of just casual hangers-on.
- They are naturally service-oriented, but not doormats. They are driven to help others, to be useful, to fix things that are broken in the environment, but that’s where the Devil card balance comes in. They have to learn that sharp elbow to stop themselves from getting totally taken advantage of. It’s an active balance, not a passive giving.
- They are the ultimate counselors. Because they see both sides of every single coin (which is what makes them indecisive), they can give killer advice. They naturally spot the pros and cons equally. My realization here was that I should be giving the advice, not asking for it.
My Final Revelation and Practical Implementation
After all that digging and journaling, I realized my problem wasn’t indecision; it was that I was fighting my primary instinct, which is to constantly weigh two things. The practice wasn’t about eliminating the duality; it was about accepting it and using it as a strength.
My final action was to put this into practice. Instead of trying to force myself to just “pick one,” I started actively using my “Six” traits. When faced with a big choice, I now have a new step: I document the two opposing sides—literally writing a pro/con list, creating harmony on paper—and then I use my counsellor trait to advise myself. It stops the ping-ponging in my head.
Finding that number 6 was like getting the owner’s manual for my own head. It wasn’t about fortune-telling; it was about self-discovery through a simple formula. If you’re feeling lost, do the math. You might just find the blueprint that explains all the weird quirks you thought were just flaws. Turns out, they’re just your superpower operating on the wrong setting.
