So I decided to figure out what it’s really like to have a Virgo friend. You hear all these things, right? They’re organized, they’re critical, they’re loyal. But I wanted to see the good and the bad from my own experience, not just from some astrology website.
Starting with my friend, Sarah
First thing I did was think about my friend Sarah, who’s a Virgo. We’ve been friends for years. I grabbed a notebook and just started writing down things I noticed, like really paying attention to our interactions for a couple of weeks.
I started listing the good stuff. Sarah is the person you call when your life is a mess. I remember once I was planning a trip and everything was chaotic. I told her about it, and the next day she sent me a full, color-coded spreadsheet with a budget, a packing list, and a day-by-day itinerary. She didn’t even ask, she just did it. That’s the Virgo loyalty and practical help in action. They see a problem and their brain immediately starts working on a solution.
But then I had to be honest about the other side. That same helpfulness can turn into criticism real quick. I was telling her about a new recipe I tried, and I was really proud of it. Instead of just saying “great job,” she started asking questions: “Did you use fresh thyme or dried? Was the pan hot enough? Maybe next time try searing it for a minute less.” It felt like I was being graded. I had to write that down as a potential downside. They don’t mean to be harsh; they just want things to be perfect, and that includes you.
Putting it all together
After a few weeks of jotting things down, my notebook was a mess of observations. So I sat down at my desk with a coffee and organized everything into two lists: the good traits and the challenging ones.
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The really good sides:
- Extremely reliable: If Sarah says she’ll be there at 7, she’s there at 6:55. You never have to wonder.
- Thoughtful and practical: She remembers your allergies, your important dates, and gives gifts that you actually need.
- Honest to a fault: You always know where you stand with her. There’s no fake flattery.
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The tougher sides to handle:
- Overly critical: Sometimes you just want a “good job,” not a list of improvements.
- Can worry too much: She gets stressed about details that most people wouldn’t even notice, and that energy can be draining.
- Struggles to relax: It’s hard for her to just sit and do nothing. Her mind is always ticking, always organizing.
Seeing it on paper made it all clear. The same traits that make her an amazing, rock-solid friend are the ones that can sometimes drive me a little crazy. It’s a package deal. You don’t get the super-organized planner without also getting the occasional nitpicker.
In the end, the practice was just about paying closer attention. It’s easy to label someone, but actually watching how those traits play out in real life is what matters. Being aware of both sides helps me be a better friend to her, too. I know now that when she’s critiquing, it’s her way of caring, and I can just laugh it off.
