Man, I used to be terrible at making decisions, especially the small ones. You know, like, “Should I have pasta or rice tonight?” or “Should I reply to that email now or later?” My brain would just get stuck in a loop, overthinking every little thing. It was draining, honestly. I’d waste so much time and mental energy on stuff that didn’t even matter that much.
One day, I was just scrolling around, feeling particularly indecisive about something really dumb, and I stumbled across this idea of “Yes or No Tarot.” My first thought was, “Nah, that’s too woo-woo for me.” I always thought tarot was for, like, elaborate fortune-telling, not quick answers to daily dilemmas. But then I figured, what’s the harm in looking? I was desperate for anything that could cut down on my internal debates.
I didn’t want to get all deep into studying every single card meaning, you know? That defeats the purpose of “quick decisions” for me. So, my whole approach was to simplify it to the absolute max. I actually didn’t even buy a fancy deck at first. I just opened up some images of tarot cards on my computer and looked through them. My goal was to create a super basic, mental “list” for myself.
I started by just glancing at the cards and getting a gut feeling. Some cards just felt good, like a clear “yes.” Think about the Sun, the Star, or the World – they just scream positivity, right? And then some cards just felt like a “no,” or at least a “slow down.” Cards like the Tower, the Ten of Swords, or even the Devil – they often bring up feelings of challenge or things falling apart. So, my “list” was literally just in my head: “good vibe cards = yes,” “bad vibe cards = no.” And if it was kind of neutral, I’d just consider it a “maybe” or “rephrase the question.”
My Simple Process
- Get the Question Right: This was the first, and honestly, most important step. It had to be a straight “yes” or “no” question. No “Should I try to do X, but only if Y happens and Z doesn’t?” Nope. Just “Should I do X?”
- The Shuffle (or Scroll): If I was using a physical deck (which I did eventually get, a super basic one), I’d just shuffle it while thinking about the question. If I was still just looking at images online, I’d just scroll randomly or close my eyes and pick. The key was to not overthink the picking part.
- One Card, One Answer: I always just pulled one single card. No spreads, no complex readings. Just one card.
- Check My “List”: I’d look at that one card and instantly refer to my mental “yes/no” list. If it was one of my “good vibe” cards, it was a “yes.” If it was a “bad vibe” card, it was a “no.” Simple as that.
The first few times I tried this, it felt a little silly, I’m not gonna lie. I’d ask things like, “Should I watch that new show tonight?” or “Should I go for a walk right now?” And I’d pull a card. Sometimes, the card would pop up, and it was exactly what I secretly wanted to do anyway. It was like permission. Other times, it would be a “no” for something I was leaning towards, and it actually made me pause and think, “Hmm, why did I really want to do that anyway?” It wasn’t magic, but it was like a little nudge for my own intuition.
I realized pretty quickly that this wasn’t about the cards telling me my future. It was about externalizing my own thoughts. When I saw that “yes” card, it often just affirmed a feeling I already had but was too busy dissecting. And when I saw a “no,” it made me question my initial impulse in a way I usually didn’t. It became less about getting a definitive answer from the universe and more about quickly checking in with myself, using the cards as a kind of mirror.
It helped me clear out a lot of mental clutter. Instead of spending 15 minutes debating lunch, I could pull a card, get a quick “yes” or “no” for one option, and then just move on. It really did speed up my small daily decisions. It freed up brain space for more important stuff, you know?
Now, don’t get me wrong, I still don’t use it for big, life-altering stuff. Like, “Should I quit my job?” or “Should I move to another country?” Nah, those need way more thought and planning than a single card can give. This “Yes or No Tarot List” method is strictly for those small, everyday choices where overthinking just sucks your energy. It’s a quick gut-check, a way to break indecision, and honestly, it worked wonders for me in just getting things done faster. If you’re stuck in a similar loop of indecision, give it a shot. Keep it super simple, like I did. You might be surprised how much it helps.
