Alright folks, grab a cuppa, this one’s a story about me trying to navigate dating an Aries this year – as a classic Virgo. Yeah, I know. Sparks? Oh, for sure. Fires? Started a few too.
Kicking Things Off Blindly
Met this Aries guy back in January at a friend’s party. Total whirlwind energy – loud laugh, cracking jokes, instantly talking about climbing Machu Picchu “someday”. My Virgo brain went “Whoa, slow down cowboy”, but honestly? That energy was kinda intoxicating at first. He asked for my number right then, didn’t even hesitate. Aries directness, check.
The Plan Collides With… No Plan
First few weeks were great, fun dates, tons of chatter. Then, reality hit. I suggested we plan a nice weekend trip for March. Found a cute cottage, even made a shared checklist (of course!). His response? “That sounds cool, babe! Super spontaneous though, right? Maybe we just drive somewhere Friday and see?” My inner Virgo planner practically screamed. He saw a fun adventure; I saw chaos and potential wasted money.
This became a theme:
- Him: Deciding last minute to invite 5 people over for dinner. My weekend tidy-up routine? Trashed.
- Me: Pointing out a more efficient route during a road trip. He heard nagging; I saw helpfulness.
- Him: Buying concert tickets impulsively on payday. My budget spreadsheet wept silently.
Friction? Constant. Felt like our languages didn’t quite translate.
Trying to Bridge the Aries-Virgo Gap
Okay, needed a strategy. My Virgo brain kicked into analysis mode. Started keeping a tiny notebook – not to complain, but to track:
- What triggered my Virgo “critical eye” moments?
- When did his Aries impulsiveness lead to genuine fun?
- When did my organized ideas actually help us avoid disaster?
And then, the experiments began:
- The Spontaneity Slot: Told him he could pick one weekend thing per month with max 24 hours notice. My rules? No complaining, just go with it. First try? He dragged me to midnight roller disco. Exhausting? Yes. Surprisingly fun? Also yes. My compromise? I packed our bags the night before.
- Chill on the Nitpicking: Made a real effort to ask myself before speaking: “Is this vital, or just my Virgo itch?” Him leaving towels on the floor? Still annoying, but maybe worth less energy than criticizing every time. I bought hooks.
- Direct Appreciation: Aries loves being the hero. So instead of just fixing things he forgot (quietly, like Virgos do), I started saying things like: “You figuring out that parking situation saved us so much stress! Thanks for jumping on it.” His face lit up like a firecracker.
Where We Landed (So Far)
Look, it ain’t perfect harmony. Last month, he planned a “romantic, unplanned drive” that ended with us lost near a swamp at sunset. My inner organizer panicked, his adventurer spirit thought it was a “cool story”.
But here’s the 2023 takeaway:
- Expect the collision: Virgo order meeting Aries chaos will create sparks (and smoke).
- Name it kindly: Saying “My Virgo brain needs a heads-up about changes” works better than “Your plans are a mess.”
- Give them room to shine: Let the Aries lead the spontaneous fun bits. They’re GOOD at it.
- Pick your battles: Criticizing every little mess? Burns you both out fast. Focus on the big stuff that truly impacts your peace.
- Appreciate loudly: Feed the Aries ego with genuine praise when they get stuff right. They thrive on it.
It’s work, folks. Honest, intentional work. Some days I crave another Virgo’s calm order. But damn, that Aries fire keeps life from ever getting boring. Would I change the adventure? After surviving this year? Nah. But I’ll always pack snacks and a map. Just in case.
